Archive | January, 2013

backward dog…

29 Jan

Leading up to my wedding this past November I became diligent about practicing yoga for almost a full year.  Not only did I want to get my body in tip-top shape (um, can you say yoga arms?), but it provided me calmness and stillness during the hectic and intense wedding planning months.  I was consistently attending class 3x a week and by the time the big night rolled around I felt both physically and mentally strong.  I had even mastered headstand, could hold crow pose for 5 full breaths and was “close” to balancing forearm stand (*disclaimer* before starting yoga – I couldn’t even touch my toes!).  The meditation piece never quite took, but I’ll chalk that up to anxious genes and wedding planning neurosis.  At the rate I was going I didn’t think I would ever lose momentum (something that I’ve habitually done in the past with exercise).  How could I?  I resigned myself to a yoga infused life and it would be weaved into my weekly schedule.  I had gotten relatively good, was enjoying the benefits and had finally found a workout that I liked!

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Wellllllllll…..I hate to say this (publicly, no less!) but since back from the moon, I’ve only practiced a total of 3-4x (we got back November 23rd)!  Am I a cliché or what?  You know the story….girl gets in best shape of her life before wedding, declares she’s a changed woman and then falls back into old patterns once wedding is complete.  Please tell me I’m not alone here!  It feels like a huge disappointment and week over week I gear up and meticulously plan (and tell Dina) how I am carving out time for class (believe it or not every week that passes, I truly believe this will be the week), but I’m having some trouble.  I admit – I’ve lost a little bit of my yoga mojo.

While having dinner with my best friend Mika last night (who is in fact a phenomenal yoga instructor – find her teaching schedule/contact information here!) I was whining about how I fell off the wagon, need to get back to it and how I’m such a cliché’.  Her kind reply was this, “Sometimes cliché’s exist for a reason.  It has not been that long since your wedding and you’re probably still adjusting to post wedding life.  It happens!”  And with just those wise and understanding words (coming from a yoga teacher no less!), I decided two things right then and there:

1.  Be gentle on myself.  Sometimes we regress for a moment and that is ok.  We are still moving forward.  Breath, reboot and begin again!
2.  MAKE TIME FOR YOGA

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it’s almost february…

23 Jan

In this absolutely frigid weather (if you’re in the northeast), let’s not forget that warmth will come back around.  Some visual inspiration to get you through the week.   I’m counting down the days to this…

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sale away…

20 Jan

Abc carpet & home is having a fantastic SALE.  Up to 60% off until January 27th.  We almost bought the Philippe Starck Ghost Chair that I’ve been coveting for months, but didn’t pull trigger (I’m still convincing Dina that we need it).  Get there now!

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viva espana!

20 Jan

Dina and I vacationed in Barcelona back in 2009 and fell in love with the city and country. We loved it so much that we discussed buying a second home there rationalizing “it’s just a little bit further than California, why not?” (Don’t worry Mom, that fantasy was short lived.)  One of the aspects that I truly identified with was their fashion sense. A relaxed bohemian style with an edge, it felt relatable and just my speed. The women were beautiful, confident and chic but not in a forced way. I loved it! While shopping one day we found the most amazing retail store called Massimo Dutti and both could not get enough of it. It reminded me of Zara (my favorite store) so no surprise that they are owned by the same parent company, Inditex.  Like the GAP in the States and H&M in Europe, there was one on every corner. We went into all of them saying to each other “this one may have something different than the last – we can’t miss out.” I’m ecstatic to tell you all that this Spanish gem has arrived in NYC. It opened this past October (the store is on Fifth between 55th and 56th) and today I paid it my first visit.

massimo duttiMassimo Dutti – NYC

It was everything I remembered so I stacked up on some great sweaters (that were on sale) and super cute spring pants. I had to share this news because if you’re like me and appreciate this expression of style (a more refined Zara), the price points are fantastic!  And for all you boys out there – you’re in luck! They carry Mens. Go check it out and tell me what you think. Happy shopping!!!! A few things I picked up today:

Screen Shot 2013-01-19 at 3.25.48 PMFrom left to right: White Sweater (in store only), $69.90 (sale price), Pleated Palazzo Trousers, $98.50, Fantasy Swan Sweater w/ Twisted Yarn, $49.90 (sale price), Trousers, $89.90 (in store only)

More of my favorites from Massimo Dutti:

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hair today, gone tomorrow…

19 Jan

There was never a time in my life that I wasn’t hair conscious – or rather I should say self-conscious about my hair. From as far back as kindergarten I cried about how my side pony was too frizzy and asked questions like, “why can’t my hair be smooth and straight like all the other little girls?” My Mom used to brush and pull and smooth, but no matter what we did – my hair felt like a cotton ball protruding from my head.

Screen Shot 2013-01-19 at 10.51.08 AMFirst Grade Picture: 1985

ponytailRocking the Pony: sometime in the early 80’s

This continued throughout elementary, middle, high school and college. It was only until a few years ago (I’m 33) where I began to “sort of” embrace the curls and own them. I had no more fight in me so I threw in the towel and started to work with what I had. I can’t deny that even though I’ve resolved some of my frustrations with my mane, I still get bent out of shape about it. My wife calls it “hairanoia” (hair + paranoia = hairanoia). She thinks that I see my hair way different from the reality of it. Sort of like when you look in a fun house mirror and your perception is completely distorted. I know I’m not alone here, right??

For the past few years since keratin hit the market, things have increasingly gotten better. I get the treatment 1-2x a year. I wouldn’t say that I’m 100% satisfied though (and the fact that I have grey hair too does not help matters – shhh). My hair is smoother and more manageable, but as each month goes by – I know it’s slowly creeping back towards its original texture (keratin girls – you know what I mean!). And I am not thrilled about putting the chemicals in, but hey – the things we do for beauty. I continue to search for the perfect cocktail of smoothing serum, gel, comb, diffuser, shampoo, conditioner, and any other hair treatment that will tame the mane. Every time I purchase a new product it’s another glimmer of hope towards transforming the locks. I try out my new combination and fingers crossed I’ll look like Penelope Cruz.

This brings me to the present day. Due to my hairanoia I’ve been resistant to getting a “real” cut – keeping it long and simple to maintain some level of ease. I detest haircuts. Every time I go into the salon I sound like Woody Allen – anxious, overly descriptive, nervous, uneasy and annoying to the stylist! I’m pretty sure every one I’ve ever seen thinks I need to be medicated. Haircuts to me are up there with sky diving, bungee jumping and swimming with the sharks. I’ve dreamed of cutting it shorter, but fear that it will be even more difficult than it already is. I know, I know – hair grows back so what am I sweating? And the truth is I don’t know! Like all irrational fears, this one is on my list.

You’ll be happy to know that yesterday I took the plunge, threw caution to the wind and went through with it. I was literally debating it up until the time that I sat in Johnny’s (Bumble and Bumble) chair, but after the first chop there was no turning back. I watched him carefully craft my do and tried my hardest not to freak him (and myself out) along the way. Towards completion I was still on edge about the whole thing and (even though going reverse wasn’t an option) having a conversation with myself whether this was the right move or not. After Johnny was done he shook it out and turned me towards the mirror. I took a deep breath, I put my hands to it, touched and played for a minute and decided that I LOVE IT! It’s a great change, feels fresh, exciting and I think I’m a bit bolder having gone through with it. If in a month or so I hate it….luckily it’s hair and will grow back!

Yesterday morning I asked my wife as we looked in the mirror together, “What if I don’t look sexy without long hair?” and she said this: “Your hair is not what makes you sexy. You are what makes you sexy”. I’ll continue to remind myself of this when I get hairanoid!

Are you thinking about making any changes soon? I’m always inspired by you so please share your stories!

inspirationInspiration: Sarah Paulson

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Screen Shot 2013-01-19 at 9.41.05 AMMy tool kit: Ouidad Climate Control gel, Bumble and Bumble Defrizz, Luxor diffuser, T3 Hair Dryer, Keratin Color Minded Shampoo/Conditioner, Hair Pick Comb

the dorothy effect…

18 Jan

For all who know me I think we’d agree that my path has not been straight and narrow (pun intended).  I wonder if that’s by choice or a higher power above is guiding me along the way.
Do you ever wonder about that?  Like no matter what you do it’s irrelevant because it’s predetermined?  Or maybe not?  Maybe I’m responsible for it all.   Or it’s a combination of both?. Anyway, I digress.
I’m at a place in my life – approaching yet another intersection where new decisions will have to be made. I’m reminded of Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz on the yellow brick road when she encounters the scarecrow.
The conversation went like this:

Dorothy: Now which way do we go?
Scarecrow: Pardon me, this way is a very nice way.
Dorothy: Who said that?
Dorothy: Don’t be silly, Toto. Scarecrows don’t talk.
Scarecrow: [points other way] It’s pleasant down that way, too.
Dorothy: That’s funny. Wasn’t he pointing the other way?
Scarecrow: [points both ways] Of course, some people do go both ways.

Whether others around me have a direct route from point A to point B, this my friends –  is just not my way.  Regardless of who or what is driving it (be it me or a supernatural power), I take detours which propel me to another place and another place and another…..and eventually, after all is said and done and I’m exhausted from the journey –  I bestow upon Emerald City.
Anyone else experience this too?  In my earlier years I was frustrated with this model, asking myself questions like, “why is it so difficult?”, “why does everyone else have it so easy?”, “when am I going to find it (it = love, sexuality, stability, career, etc)?”  But at 33, approaching 34 what I’ve realized is this – this path is GOOD!  NO!  Actually it’s FANTASTIC!  To have been able to navigate on the curvy as opposed to straight has provided me with the experience of trying many things on until finding what’s “JUSSSSST RIGHT” (insert Goldilocks reference here).  I’ve been fortunate to gain insight to understanding that even though the road is/was windy, staying the course and being true to your core will get you to where you want to be.  I have encountered many obstacles (coming out being the hardest twist so far), but I continued to work through it and am now married to the love of my life, comfortable in my skin (the most valuable accomplishment in all of it) and feel ready to take on the world.  It will hurt and feel uncomfortable at times…..you may even get squirmy and have to regress for a moment before moving forward, but KEEP GOING!  No matter what it is you decide that you want, you can have it.  You may not get back to Kansas in one straight shot, but this is part of the journey.  Put on your game face, embrace it and saddle up like Dorothy. You’ll come back with more heart, more brains and more courage.  We have one life to live and no one ever said it would be easy.  Seek it and you shall find.

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golden globes 2013…

14 Jan

Ode to the black and white trend coming down the pipeline for Spring 2013.  Some of my favorite Golden Globe looks tonight – Kate Hudson as the clear front runner in my book and Nicole Kidman a VERY close second.  What are your favorites?

Kate-Hudson-Black-Golden-Globes-2013Kate Hudson in Alexander McQueen

Nicole-Kidman-Golden-Globes-2013-PicturesNicole Kidman in Alexander McQueen

70th Annual Golden Globe Awards - ArrivalsOlivia Munn in Armani

Screen Shot 2013-01-13 at 9.22.53 PMJulianne Moore in Tom Ford

70th Annual Golden Globe Awards - ArrivalsKristen Wiig in Michael Kors

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30 day (mental) cleanse…

12 Jan

I am not alone in feeling that January is an ideal time to cleanse. A new year, a clean slate, a time to regroup and “start over”. A ‘cleanse’ or ‘detox’ can mean many things to many different people. Maybe you are just breaking off from a relationship and beginning anew romantically. Or maybe you’ve just given up smoking. Perhaps you’ve decided that 2013 is the year to lose those pesky 5lbs that have monopolized your thoughts in 2012! Maybe you will start an exercise routine or resolve an argument that just went on too long. The examples are endless, but unquestionably personal. Starting this year (1/1/13) I decided to go alcohol free (end date TBD)! I’ve done this exercise two times before (for 30 days at a time) and although I admit original intentions were physical benefits (give body a break, clean out toxins, regain energy, sleep better and if lucky lose a few pounds), what I truly gained from the experiences were mental ones. The truth is this: if you are a person like myself who appreciates taking the edge off with a drink (or whatever your vice of choice is), eliminating it from your life helps put into perspective your relationship to that habit. It gives you time to assess why you engage in what you’re doing, what purpose does it serve whether positive or negative and how do you cope with and without it. You are welcomed with the opportunity to clear your head while simultaneously finding healthier substitutions to your normal cadence. Unhealthy habits take over all of us and it is only when you try and stop that you can make sense of the dependency. It is day 12 for me and I’m going strong. Last night we had a dinner party with friends and the temptation of a drink was there. I wanted it – trust me! Not a norm to refrain but a useful test to force me to be embrace the raw uninterrupted version of myself. And I had a blast! I encourage you to think about what your coping mechanisms are and further evaluate whether they are worth giving up. Even if it’s just a moment of walking away so that you gain insight, perspective and an awareness of yourself when you come back to it and another step towards strengthening your most important relationship – the one with yourself.

Would love to hear some of your methods of cleansing too. Don’t forget to share!

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getting sporty’ish – part deux

12 Jan

As promised – the complete head to toe look rocking the new kicks.  As an added bonus we were walking home from brunch and a guy on the street called out “cool sneakers girl!”  WIN!

sneaker update

coat: h&m jeans: citizens of humanity scarf: aritzia bag: cole haan gloves: bloomingdales sneakers: nike

love like you mean it…

11 Jan

Love is everything – don’t you think?  Remember to dive in and love hard because the reward is SO worth the risk.  I hope you spend the weekend with the one you love (I know I will).  Happy Friday!!!

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